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Are you worried that your coworkers don’t respect you? Do you question if your friends really care about you? Do you care too much about what people think about you?

Well, it’s time you started not giving a eff.

This is an excerpt from a really epic article I stumbled upon via www.InOverYourHead.net.

FACT NUMBER 1. People are judging you right now.

Yes, it’s really happening right at this moment. Some people don’t like you, and guess what? There’s nothing you can do about it. No amount of coercion, toadying, or pandering to their interests will help. In fact, the opposite is often true; the more you stand for something, the more they respect you, whether it’s grudgingly or not.

FACT NUMBER 2. You don’t need everyone to like you.

This stuff is crazy, I know, but it’s cool, you’ll get used to it. Here’s the next thing: not only do most people not know that you exist, and some are judging you, but it totally does not matter even if they are.

How liberating this is may not even hit you yet, but it will. Check this out: when people don’t like you, nothing actually happens. The world does not end. You don’t feel them breathing down your neck. In fact, the more you ignore them and just go about your business, the better off you are.

FACT NUMBER 3. It’s your people that matter.

Ok, so you’ve adjusted to the fact that most people in the world are barely aware of your existence, and you’re also conscious of the fact that those who don’t like you are in the obscenely small minority and don’t actually matter. Awesome. Next you need to realize that the people who do care about you, and no one else, are those you need to focus on.

How to get back your self-respect in five easy get’er done steps…

STEP 1. Do things that you consider embarrassing.

STEP 2. Accept, or deal with, awkwardness.

STEP 3. Refuse boundaries.

See the full, epic article by  Julien Smith here.